Harvard’s Center on the Developing Child found that every kid who succeeds in the face of adversity has had at least one committed relationship with a supportive adult. But Josh Shipp didn’t need Harvard to understand that. As an at-risk foster kid, Shipp was facing a bleak future that would likely have included prison or homelessness—until he met the grown-up who changed his life. Enter Rodney, the foster parent who refused to quit and finally got Shipp to believe in himself.
Now, in The Grown-Up’s Guide to Teenage Humans, Shipp shows us how to be that same sort of caring adult in a teenager’s life. Stressing the need for mutual respect, trust, and encouragement, he identifies three key mindsets crucial to understanding teens. He breaks down the distinct phases of teenage life, examines the challenges at each phase, and offers revelatory stories that take us deep inside the teen brain.
Shipp also shares field-tested, game-changing strategies from top professionals and provides word-for-word scripts that troubleshoot more than twenty common teen issues, including
• RESPONSIBILITY: When my teen messes up, how can I help her take ownership?
• COMMUNICATION: How do I get my teen to talk to me? He just grunts.
• TRUST: My teen blew it and lost my trust. Where do we go from here?
• BULLYING: Help! My teen is being harassed—online or face-to-face.
• DIFFICULT AND AWKWARD CONVERSATIONS: Drugs. Death. Sex. Oh my.
Written in Shipp’s playful but authoritative voice, The Grown-Up’s Guide to Teenage Humans lays out unflinchingly practical ways to make a difference in a teen’s life. As Shipp reminds us, raising a respectable adult comes down to investing in teens and giving them the boundaries, time, and support they need to thrive.
And that means every kid is one caring adult away from being a success story.
“Raising an accountable adult is challenging but possible. Josh Shipp presents practical solutions to help parents and other caring adults be as effective as possible, even in the most difficult situations. You will acquire new strategies to provide teens with the skills and confidence they need to be successful!” —John G. Miller, author of QBQ! The Question Behind the Question and Raising Accountable Kids
“This is an invaluable guide to understanding, influencing, and genuinely helping the teenager in your life. Josh offers uncompromisingly practical tips to restore trust, build mutual respect, and expertly help them navigate adolescence successfully.” —Rosalind Wiseman, New York Times best-selling author of Queen Bees and Wannabes and founder of Cultures of Dignity
“As a Dad I appreciate how practical Josh’s insights are. This book provides effective and practical ways to handle even the most squirm-worthy moments of the teenage years.” —Doyin Richards, fatherhood advocate and contributor to UPWORTHY and Parents Magazine
“This book provides a deep understanding of a teenager’s needs and a practical guide for nurturing optimal development. The advice Josh shares is evidence-based, no nonsense, and uncompromising in it’s practicality. These insights will teach us how we can be that one caring adult every teen needs.” —Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of New York Times bestseller How to Raise an Adult
“An essential guide to understanding and positively influencing adolescents. This book is equal parts inspiring and genuinely helpful for every parent, youth worker, educator, or anyone involved with teens in any capacity.” —Salome Thomas-EL, award-winning principal and author of The Immortality of Influence
“Teenagers pose unique challenges for parents, teachers and caregivers. This book is an essential read, providing a unique pathway to best understand, connect with and guide us in nurturing healthy, resilient teens.” —Gene Beresin MD, MA, Executive Director of The Clay Center for Young Healthy Minds and Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School
“The success and impact of my work originates with teachers and other caring adults who invested in me during my formative teenage years. Josh Shipp’s book arms caring adults with the principles, insights, and inspiration they need to help teens they care about succeed.” —Jack Canfield, co-creator of The Chicken Soup for the Soul® Series and author of The Success Principles™
“I’ve devoted my career to helping business leaders skillfully navigate situations where the stakes are high, opinions vary, and emotions run strong. Never is that more true than when you’re a parent. Josh’s data-backed insights give parents the words to say and the mindset to embody for this crucial window of influence with our own kids.” —Joseph Grenny, coauthor of New York Times bestseller Crucial Conversations
“Research keeps telling us that committed adults make a difference in the lives of teenagers. Now, Josh Shipp tells you how to be that adult. The Grown-up’s Guide to Teenage Humans is a must-have resource for anyone who has a heart for the next generation.” —Dave Ramsey, best-selling author and nationally syndicated radio show host
“As both a Mom and professor, I found this parenting book to be a breath of fresh air. Josh skillfully combines heart, humor, and research-backed strategies to reclaim harmony with the teenage human in your life.” —Kimberly Allen, PhD, Department of Youth, Family, and Community Sciences at North Carolina State University
“The world needs this book. Few have the insight or ability to share life changing words like Josh does. Here he provides a look at how we can all help shape the lives of the people most important to us. He does so in typical Josh Shipp fashion: with equal parts humor and heart.” —Brad Montague, creator of Kid President
“This book is the training manual you never got. A must-have resource for parents, teachers, or anyone else who has to deal with teens.” —Ellen Rakieten, Executive Producer of OPRAH